If there is one thing I can truly empathize with in my job and passion, is when I see someone trying so hard to lose weight and nothing ever happens. You can see the sadness, frustration and confusion in their eyes. Eventually they give up! Why wouldn't they? Everything they have been told about calories-in vs calories-out doesn't seem to be working.
"All this work, and nothing is happening?" Honestly, I'd be inclined to quit! That's because the entire calories-in vs calories-out theory is pseudo science, at best. Last time I checked, we are not coal fires... Human beings are 99.99% physiologically it is the same when it comes to basic diet requirements. Although the amounts of the same macronutrients needed will vary depending on appetite, activity levels and your "personal" processes within your own body.
Generally, we are all designed to run off of particular types of foods. When I sit with a client for a nutrition consultaion nowdays, it takes me a minimum of 2 hours to explain some of the science and the reasons why we should be eat a certain way, instead of just handing them a "diet plan" on a piece of paper. Now I much prefer to just empower people with information and provide them with resources in order for them to continue their own education for long term, and hoepfully life- long results and success.
I don't write anything down anymore. I used to make a llot more money doing food plans for people, but I found people were only focusing on the sample menu that I provided them, instead of the information; boxing themselves in, as it were. That approach lead to little long-term success/results.
Now I offer education instead. I tell people all the time...
"the correct way of eating for the body is simple; for a multitude of complicated reasons".
The same applies to my training approach, (I'll get to that another time). I'm not going to spin your head around today with a lot of scientific references and fancy words. I want you to take a deep breath and realize there doesn't need to be any suffering involved, when it comes to improving your health. No crazy workouts, no spending hours in the gym, no excess cardio etc. It may sound too good to be true, but I promise you, it isn't! We simply feed the body what it needs, and then step out of the way and allow it to do what it's designed to do: keeping us healthy!
Be aware. The closer you have come to a diseased condition, the stricter you will need to be.
We either feed the disease process or we don't. But it's still up to you how far you want to take it. Some of what I recommend is a big stretch for a few people, and for others it's not much different to what they are already doing. But the smallest of changes can bring about a very large shift in ones health toward the positive. Cutting out juice and soda/diet soda is one example. It doesn't have to be all or nothing. If you can change 10% or 30%, 50%, 70% or even manage 100%, whatever works for you. The goal is taking it as far as YOU can, for you, not anyone else. You do not need to suffer by living up to someone else's expectations. Note that consistency in whatever you do decide to change is the key to long term success, and may even lead you to go further towards 100% naturally without that much more efforting.
At AK Fitness Antigua my slogan is: "To be 'YOUR' best, Train with THE best".
Those carefully chosen words might be easily misinterpreted. What was not said: "To be 'THE' best, train with the best", because that would suggest you should compare yourself to the abilities, physique etc., of others and that concept can cause stress, expectations and unnecessary suffering. Trust me, there's no need.
I also do not consider myself to be the BEST trainer; not by a long shot. There are many amazing innovative trainers out there who I study from and highly respect. And I look up to them, as they are the ones teaching me, and inspiring me. I am humbled by their knowledge, and I'm fully aware that there is always something new to learn. I also never claim to know everything at all.
I always do MY BEST as a trainer to keep learning, (a never-ending journey); then bringing that knowledge to my clients.
I'm an athlete also, so I to want to benefit from more knowlege. I am the same as you: working on improvements, doing my best, and going at my own pace, physically, mentally, spiritually and professionally. If I start comparing myself to other people and or trainers, and what they do or know VS myself, I would become a insecure and possibly a dangerous trainer. So, "To be YOUR best, train with THE best", simply means that we are in this together, and the struggles to improved with certain things, are shared. No need for comparison to others. Honor yourself by being gentle with yourself. It doesn't mean allowing excuses, it just means that we pick a pace that represents OUR very best!